Thank you for explaining what "tiffa" scanning is.
Unfortunately, I was afraid that your questions would fall
outside of my field of expertise, and this has turned out to be the
case. They are, however, questions and concerns your midwife
or doctor should be answering. Here's what I suggest:
- Make a conference appointment with your care provider so that
whoever schedules appointments allows enough time for you to talk
with the doctor or midwife.
- Write down your questions before the appointment and bring the
list with you so that you don't forget any of them.
- Go with your partner, a relative, or friend. It will help you
feel less anxious, and two people listening and asking questions
are better than one.
- Ask your questions and repeat back in your own words what you
think your care provider said: "So you're saying that . . ." This
will allow your care provider to correct any misunderstanding.
- Write down what your care provider tells you. It is easy to
forget important points when you are feeling stressed.
- Ask your care provider what you should do if you have any
further questions. When you think over what you have been told
later, new questions may come up.
If your care provider isn't willing to listen to you, discuss
your concerns with you, make sure you understand what she or he is
saying, and work with you on coming to agreement on what to do,
then I strongly recommend that if at all possible, you find
a midwife or doctor who will.