The best advice I can give you is to get complete, objective
information on all your options so that you can make an
informed decision. I'll put some links to other resources at the
bottom, but this acronym can help you do that:
No or not
"Benefits" will be the reasons why
your dr is recommending this course of action. It should be
specific to your case, so, for example, is there a reason why your
dr is recommending early delivery? Are your sugar levels not under
control? Do you have other health issues such as high blood
pressure? Why is your dr recommending against VBAC? With one prior
cesarean and (presumably) the standard low transverse uterine
incision, you would seem to be a good candidate, that is, with
appropriate care, a risk of 5 per 1000 or less of the scar giving
way and a 75% chance or better of vaginal birth.
"Risks" should be factual, no
"waving the shroud," as the Australians call it. If you are getting
feelings instead of information, that's an indicator that you are
being manipulated into a decision.
Next, you want the benefits and
risks of your "alternatives," including doing nothing and letting
nature take its course.
Then you want to take
some time to digest all of this, and once you have done
that, you want to pay attention to what your "intuition" or
"instinct" is telling you. Meditation, prayer, or just finding a
quiet time to consider what you have learned and see what floats up
can help you figure out what is best for you and your
Finally, know that it is your
right to say "no" or "not now" if that is what you decide, and
while it is unfortunately all too common, it is a serious breach of
medical ethics for your care providers to try to pressure you
into agreeing with their game plan once you have done so. Saying
"no" is not unequivocal. It should include a discussion of the
circumstances under which your answer might change.
a page on making informed decisions about care from the Childbirth
Here on the same website is info on planned VBAC vs. elective
repeat cesarean surgery. Here
is a page on the Lamaze website that is also on planning
I hope this helps.