How Do I interpret my OB's responses to these questions?Thread
Sep 15, 2011 03:26 PM
I found you on the Lamaze Int. website and was wondering if I could get your insight. I am almost 34 weeks pregnant with my first child and have recently been exploring the idea of natural labor and possibly hiring a doula. After starting this process (embarrassingly only about two weeks ago), I learned that there were some important questions that I first needed to ask my OB. I wrote my questions down so that I wouldn't forget them and I need your help interpreting what she said.
My first question was regarding whether or not she would actually be able to be present at my birth. Her reply was that she most likely would be because she didn't have any vacations planned around my due date, however if I wanted to be certain that she could be there she could schedule to induce me so that there was no doubt. This was the first red flag and it scared the hell out of me...I don't want to be INDUCED! I was a little scared at this point trying to figure out how the rest of my questions would be answered. I told her that I didn't want to be induced and moved on to the second question.
"What do you think about Doulas?" She replied that she had no problem with doulas as long as they didn't get in the way of her decision making as my caregiver. I didn't know how to interpret this response, perhaps you can help.
Next I asked her how often do any of her patients have a natural child birth and what her thoughts on the matter were. She couldn't give me an exact number, but she said that plenty of her patients have had natural childbirth and explained that her only reservation is that if she feels the mother has been laboring too long that she prefers to administer pain meds to ensure that the mother can "make it" through the entire birthing process. I didn't know how to interpret this response either? Did that mean that she would insist on giving me pain meds if I appeared to be tired or exhausted? Could I refuse them? How often do women who are trying to have a natural childbirth give in and allow their doctors to administer pain meds?
I followed up this question with one regarding her thoughts on different birthing positions and whether or not she was open to letting women give birth in a non-traditional position like squatting or on all fours. She said she had no problem with other positions, however when it was time for the baby to come out she needed me to return to a position that was suitable for her to see what was going on and have better control of the situation. Again, I was unsure how to interpret this...did she mean that I could push in any position as long an I flipped back over onto my back when the baby starts to crown? Did she mean that she was OK with me moving around during labor but not after the transition phase?
My last question was about episiotomies and how often she felt that they were necessary. She didn't have any stats for me on how often she does them, but she did claim that women who don't give birth with drugs usually are at a higher risk of tearing because there are no pain meds to slow the baby's descent and therefore she usually does not have enough time to perform and episiotomy if the baby is coming too quickly. I felt like this statement was another vote on her part for having a drug assisted birth, but I could have misread her response.
I am basically trying to find out if you think that based on the responses what the odds are that my doctor will abide by my wishes and or be resistant to my desire to have a natural child birth. I value your expertise and would love your insight on the situation.
Thank you so much for your help,
Due October 31st.
Sep 16, 2011 03:16 PM
Posted By on 15 Sep 2011 12:26 PM
I would love to hear back from you what you decide to do and how it goes.
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