I'm 40, 12.5 weeks along now, and my only child just turned 4. She was delivered by Cesarean after our homebirth didn't go the way we'd planned. Now as a hopeful HBAC in Alaska, I'm finding very few options for a normal pregnancy and birth... especially since I believe I am carrying two babies.
I don't feel that early or routine ultrasound is safe, and will continue to deny this intervention until 20 weeks.
I was upfront with my prospective traditional midwives and they directed me to the local VBAC friendly OB. He's nice and supportive and believes in birth, but he's still a surgeon who delivers babies in a hospital setting. My whole heart and soul believes that babies should be born at home.
Most of the experienced midwives that I have talked to are encouraging me to plan a hospital birth. So considering that my intuition is correct, and there are two babies, and we plan a hospital birth... how do I retain the dignity of a normal pregnancy and birth?
I don't want ultrasounds every two or three weeks... I don't even really want a doppler. I don't want to spend my entire labor in a hospital and I don't want someone else to catch my babies. But what I do want is a normal, hands off pregnancy where I am allowed to connect with my babies... a waterbirth with darkness and privacy and only the people around me that I choose. And of course, I want us all to be safe and well.
How do I balance all of this? If I go in for an ultrasound at 36 weeks, and everything looks great for a homebirth, and I can miraculously find an experienced midwife who will assist me at home (or at my friends home, 8 minutes from the hospital where this OB that ultimately I do trust works) and we get into labor and everything progresses normally... is it foolish to stay home and let things unfold naturally?
Or, do you think that a twin VBAC should be continuously monitored in a hospital setting for everyone's safety?
Thanks so much for reading. It's great to get this on paper. I know that there are unknowns here because I'm denying early ultrasound for diagnosis, but perhaps you can speak more to the broader questions instead of my particular situation.