I really want to have a healthy and safe pregnancy for both of us. I am now halfway thru the pregnancy. My gynecologist told me that I needed a Caesarian for any pregnancy because I have had two operations to remove fibroids. We weren't sure I would conceive, but I did - about 6 weeks after the second operation. My husband and I are delighted, but I wish I could have a normal birth. My family doctor says no, and she has sent me to an obstetrician, who also says I will need a caesarian. What advice would you give? Also, since we live in a small community we will be going to a city almost two hours away, where the obstetrician delivers, because the small hospital near my home doesn't have a paediatrician, and the baby may have some issues because it will not be full term. And I have another problem - I have colitis, and as a result I have been taking iron pills for a long time. My internist said I shouldn't stop taking the pills because I am now on a dose that seems to work well, after many years of difficulty. He feels that if I stop the pills that the complications and childbirth may make me really ill and affect the baby. Now I am reading so much about how important breastfeeding is - and many articles about pregnancy make it seem like mothers who don't breastfeed are evil. It is really bothering me. I'm thinking about stopping the medication on my own - the internist hasn't contacted me since I said that I was pregnant and couldn't go for an appointment, and my famiy doctor and obstetrician really haven't discussed the colitis with me . My husband thinks I should talk it over with them now - and not wait unitl later - our due date is early October so the C-section will likely be the end of September. I told my mom - she isn't exactly excited about my idea - but she breastfed us and has always told me - before we knew that the iron would affect it - how pleasant and enjoyable she found nursing to be.
I look very healthy, and so far I am having a pretty easy pregnancy. We've always done a lot of outdoor activities - skiing, walking, snowshoeing, camping, canoeing, kayaking, gardening, etc. I am a full time kindergarten teacher. We have a home and a room we are getting ready for the baby. We are pretty careful consumers - and won't be spending a fortune on all the overdone baby items you can buy now.
So I am very confused, and when I think about not nursing I am sad and upset, and I don't want to risk the baby's health or mine by not taking the colitis medication but I also want to experience nursing, both for the bab'ys well being and to be the best mom I can be. What advice can you give? Are there any websites that I can go to to get various perspectives on both topics? I'm looking forward to hearing from you. I feel that there are very few people who will understand these concerns that I have.
Thank you, Jane S