Thank you for the kind words. One thing that puzzled and intrigued me: Beth was, at least on the surface, an assertive person, yet she stayed with an ob she didn't like and who treated her badly by her own standards. All issues about planned cesarean surgery aside, she could have switched to someone nice. She even had friends who were obs who could have referred her. While I agree with you, I think something deeper was going on than just our birth--excuse me, delivery--culture. What typically goes on in hospitals today cannot be called "birth" any more than artificial insemination resembles making love. (That, by the way, is a paraphrase of someone else, Ronald Laing, I think.) It sounds like we both learned a lot by playing against "type."
-- Henci |