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Reply To Topic Topic: gestational diabetes - induction at 39 weeks?
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Posted By Henci Goer, BA on 20 Aug 2009 08:16 PM

Posted By on 17 Aug 2009 02:41 PM

thank you so much for your reply. i did read the rest of the thread before i posted - i think i just wasn't sure about how much the "big baby" aspect affects this. now they want me to do an elective c-section because the growth scan showed him to be "estimated" at about 11 lbs, or 5,000 grams. His head was estimated to be 35 cm and his belly 41 cm. i am 37 1/2 weeks. now i'm not even concerned about induction any more - my issue is whether to have a c-section or whether to try to get him out vaginally first. i'm really torn about it. any thoughts you have would be great, although i apologize if there is another thread on this topic that i have missed. either way, i really appreciate your time! my doula speaks very highly of you. :)


I agree with everything that Jill22 said. You are in a very difficult situation. You have care providers who have demonstrated by their non-evidence based recommendations and scare tactics that you cannot trust their judgment. If you cannot find other care, and, unfortunately, most will not take a new person late in pregnancy, here are some suggestions of mine for maximizing your chances of birthing a big baby vaginally and not being talked into potentially harmful interventions you do not truly need. Anybody else out there please feel free to add to the list.  

  • Hire an experienced doula whose references you have checked. (Looks like you've already got that one covered.) She can give you ideas on how to help labor progress, encourage you when others would discourage you, and help you talk through your options so that you make decisions based on reason rather than fear.
  • Starting labor on your own is your best option for a complication-free experience.
  • If you have no medical problems, stay home until you are in active labor, that is, contractions for at least a couple of hours that are no more than 5 min apart (count from the beginning of one contraction to the beginning of the next), a minute long, and strong enough that you cannot walk or talk during one.
  • Do not allow yourself to be admitted to the hospital until you are at least 3-4 cm dilated. If it is during the day, get checked at your care provider's office. At night, explain that you want to know what is happening, but you will go home if you are still in early labor. You may wish to hang out for an hour or two and get checked again if you think things are going hot and heavy. 
  • Ask for the nurse who is most comfortable working with couples who want natural childbirth.
  • Tell nursing staff that you are hoping for an unmedicated birth. Please do not suggest an epidural, but you welcome any ideas they have for making your comfortable. If you change your mind, they will be the first to know.
  • Unless there is an emergency--and you will know when that is the case--if medical intervention is suggested, ask questions and then ask for time alone to consider whether you will agree.
  • Refuse any intervention based on exceeding an arbitrary time limit for making progress. 
  • Stay mobile in labor. Insist on intermittent listening rather than continuous electronic fetal monitoring, refuse an IV, and avoid, or at least delay, an epidural.
  •  Avoiding an epidural means you will need other ways of coping with labor pain. A good set of childbirth education classes and your doula should prove useful there. 
  • Develop a system so that your spouse and doula can distinguish between "I don't think I can do this" from "I want an epidural."
    • code word: some word that you would not ordinarily use. Until you use it, you can bitch, moan, complain, curse or do whatever you need to say or do to cope.
    • preset time period: If you say you want an epidural, your team has some prearranged period of time (say, 30 min or 5 contractions) to try to make you more comfortable. If, at the end of that time, you haven't changed your mind, you get an epidural.
  • Push in an upright position. Give birth on hands and knees as the safest and best means of avoiding or resolving shoulder dystocia.
  • Nonconfrontational strategies for resolving conflict include:
    • Make statements no one can disagree with: "I know we all want what is best for this baby, which is why I want to do X. "
    •  If an intervention is suggested, don't respond. Look at the person and wait. Silence makes people uncomfortable and they will fill it by making a different suggestion. Wait for one you like and then agree. Then they think it was their idea. This was told to me by a doula who got it from her father who was in sales. She has seen it work.
    • Don't be drawn into an argument. Just politely repeat your position in slightly different words. "We have decided that we don't want to have membranes ruptured now." "I hear what you are saying, but we have decided to wait." 
  • Spend time in the bathroom. It makes you unavailble. If you want to clear the room of medical people, start necking with your husband. Necking is good for the labor too.

Here is a set of videos jointly produced by Lamaze International and Injoy Videos that should prove helpful.

Please keep us posted on how things work out.

-- Henci

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