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Reply To Topic Topic: I don't' want to be Induced!
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Posted By Henci Goer, BA on 16 Mar 2009 07:45 PM

Sounds like a plan. I suggest that "being stubborn" take the form of what we called back in the day, playing "broken record." You simply keep repeating that you prefer to let labor start on its own over and over again with slightly different words, but you don't let yourself be drawn into an argument, ex., "I hear what you are saying, but we have decided to let labor start on its own," "I'm sorry, but unless there is some clear medical reason why we should do otherwise, we're just going to let nature take its course," etc. I strongly recommend that both for this and for labor itself that you and your partner make sure that you are on the same page. It can be a real problem for the couple relationship if the partner gets co-opted by medical staff, and partners are vulnerable to this.

In labor--barring an emergency--before agreeing to a medical intervention, ask:

  • What is involved? This should be explained in clear language that you can understand.
  • What are the potential benefits?
  • What are the potential harms?
  • What other interventions might or would become necessary as a result of this one? What are the benefits and harms of those?
  • What are my alternatives? This should include doing nothing.
  • What are the pros and cons of the alternatives?
  • How urgent is it that we make a decision?

When you have the information, ask for time alone to discuss it. Agree ahead of time with your partner that you will not respond to scare tactics but only to factual information, and keep in mind that no intervention is harmless. Any intervention into the normal process has the potential for harm as well as good, which is why routine intervention is always a bad idea. When there is nothing wrong or the problem can be resolved by having patience or by simple measures, the woman and baby are necessarily exposed to the harms with no counterbalancing benefit.

-- Henci

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